Monday, February 2, 2015

WHAT IS LOVE?


It has been a long time since I last posted, but as I am transitioning into the new year, I felt like it was necessary to get back into doing something that is fulfilling to me; so I have decided to dedicate more time to my blog and share my thoughts and experiences on all things concerning relationships, love, and sex. As I continue to grow and evolve into a woman, I feel like I have learned and overcome many experiences throughout various relationships and encounters with different men in my life. As Valentine's day approaches, I felt the need to speak on the topic of love.

For many people, love can mean different things. It can mean the appreciation of one's presence in your life, a friendship, a mutual understanding of loyalty, or something a simple as a shoulder to lean on  at the end of the day. As I look at my generation, sometimes I feel like we do not value relationships, and even more importantly, love itself. I feel like we are too busy comparing what we currently have to the next person's situation, or are looking to get more out of a situation than we intend to give (i.e. being in a relationship for convenience, materialistic gain, or simply the fear of being alone). It's like relationships are not held sacred, intimacy is not valued, and everyone is ok with "falling back" or not putting any effort into a possible long-term situation. Why does it matter if you hit someone  else up first if clearly they are on your mind? Pride too often seems to deteriorate the true beauty and vulnerable aspects of love.  People are quick to get a side piece before they even attempt to fix or work out the problems with the main causing greater confusion. It's as if people in my generation want a significant other, but with a lack of commitment because ultimately no one wants to be alone. Relationships nowadays seem to lack a solid foundation, and that's why they seem to end as quickly as they have started. 

I feel like I am rambling, but I guess what I am trying to say is love is something to be cherished, appreciated, and unconditional. Love yourself first before involving someone else's feelings. Self love is always the best love, and remember; treasure your pearl. 

-AlexaDior